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Today's Takeaway with Florine Mark

Jan 25, 2021

With Susie Feldman, domestic violence survivor

The pandemic has left many of us feeling trapped in our homes. But even worse than the feeling of being socially isolated, there are people right now trapped at home in an abusive relationship. The fear and anxiety of being physically and/or emotionally threatened by someone you love are unimaginable. Our guest today, Susie Feldman, helps answer some very important questions such as, “How can we help someone else if we suspect abuse? What are the signs? Where can a victim of abuse turn for help?” and more. The Director of Philanthropy and Corporate Relations at the Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Detroit, Susie is also a survivor of domestic violence. Despite her successful career and what appeared to be a “perfect marriage,” Susie endured years of mental, emotional, and physical abuse. She courageously shares her story and strength, as well as resources for how to escape an abusive relationship.


What You’ll Hear on This Episode:


  • Susie talks about the shame and humiliation of falling for someone who abused her.
  • How and when Susie finally broke her story to her loved ones.
  • When did Susie’s husband begin the abuse?
  • Why did Susie “protect” her husband through eight years of marriage?
  • The ways Susie’s husband began to control her.
  • What was Susie’s husband’s family life like?
  • What happened after Susie’s husband was in jail for his abuse?
  • A tragic story about a fellow abuse victim.
  • Susie’s process of divorcing her husband and rebuilding her life.
  • Susie’s advice for abuse victims that want to leave now.
  • Why does someone become an abuser?
  • What Susie and her kids’ life is like today.
  • If someone doesn’t have money and/or a support system to escape but is being abused, what should they do?
  • Haven provides shelter, therapists, and other resources for domestic abuse victims. You can complete everything online or call the 24-hour crisis hotline 1-877-922-1274



Today’s Takeaway: We like to think of our homes as our safe place, but what if someone we know is in an abusive relationship right now? During the pandemic, families are spending more time together in close quarters and reports of domestic violence are increasing. Victims often stay silent; afraid to confide in even friends or family. That silence takes a toll. Maintaining our emotional health is just as important as maintaining our physical health. During the pandemic, finding a safe haven could be more difficult, but with the resources Susie has provided, you can make a plan. Knowledge is power. Every single day is a gift, and we should all feel safe and loved in our own homes. I’m Florine Mark and that’s “Today’s Takeaway.”

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Florine Mark


Mentioned in This Episode:

Domestic Abuse Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE

Haven 1-877-922-1274

JFS – Agency Locator